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	Mush Brain What To Do About It Part 2 by Susan Dunn Momentum Coaching
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Mush Brain
What To Do About It
Part 2
by Susan Dunn

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Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is the cornerstone of Emotional Intelligence. Without it, you can't understand other people. Learning how you work, and why, allows you to perceive how this might be operating in other people. This is important because they, like you, have trouble expressing their emotions.

While the other party may not be perceptive enough to acknowledge they're having a bad day, or are too tired to communicate well or connect, or may not want to admit this, considering it either a weakness or irrelevant, you'll have the information.

This allows you to avoid provoking someone in such a state, to save your discussion for a better time, to soothe the other person, or to avoid them at this time.

Empathy

When you know your own feelings well, and how they're expressed, you can more quickly pick up on what's going on with others.

Our emotions guide us if we pay attention to them. From our emotions we learn what's good and what's bad, what we want to be around and what we don't, what's going to feel good and what isn't.

Emotions are also contagious. Self-awareness and empathy allow us to keep good boundaries. When you can sense the other person's brain has turned to mush, or is about to, then you have good information!

How can you tell? The same way you've learned to tell what's going on with yourself. When we get angry, there are usually visible external signs. The same as go on with you. A flushing face, pounding fist, tapping fingers, bouncing leg, crossed arms, pouting face, eyes turned to slits. Know your own and you'll recognize them in others.

There are many nonverbal signals to any emotional state that you can become more aware of. 90% of all communication is nonverbal, and the emotions are expressed more compellingly through nonverbal means. That's because they are less under out control.

Even the most controlled person will have trouble controlling the expansion or contraction of their pupils, and certain other physical manifestations of emotions can't be controlled at all.

We generally don't make mindful choices about gestures and expression, because we're too busy talking to notice or care.

However, we can learn to read them in others, and generally we do. This is how we come to know our loved ones so well, and know what that tilt of the head means, that little smile, that certain hand gesture.

The Adam's Apple Jump

The Adam's Apple Jump is an example of an involuntary expression of emotion. It can't be controlled and is generally considered to be a sign of emotional anxiety, embarrassment or stress.

This was pointed out in the 1988 vice-presidential debates. When Dan Quayle listened to Lloyd Bentsen say, "Senator, you're no Jack Kennedy," his Adam's Apple "jumped". [Center for Nonverbal Studies, http://members.aol.com/nonverbal2/ )

The Adam's Apple, technically called the laryngeal prominence, is automatically stimulated when there's emotional tension from the limbic brain. Think of it as choking down a response you'd like to make but can't, or don't.

To Connect, Not to Manipulate

Learning to understand other people better is about learning to communicate, cooperate, and connect. We're all after something in our interchanges. At work, for instance, we may be working on a joint project that needs to happen. With good boundaries on both sides, we can suggest and influence, understand ourselves and others better, and accomplish more positive outcomes.

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