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Using Your Emotional Intelligence in Difficult Conversations
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The second part of EQ is to take the message from the emotion without acting and move on to think rationally about what you're going to do. This includes both words and actions. You need to be monitoring your nonverbal behaviors as well, as they are often more revealing than one's words.

If your hands are shaking, put them under your desk or in your pockets or behind your back. If your knees are knocking together, sit down and cross your legs, or sit forward and put your hands on your knees. Keep your eye contact and expressions neutral. You don't want to escalate, and most importantly, you want to avoid taking the bait and becoming emotional and irrational.

What's the bait? Something in what's being said that's designed to insult or provoke you, and it can be sandwiched amidst many things, including pseudo-compliments. For instance, "I know you're doing the best you can, and considering what you're going through, it's admirable but... "

The bait is ... just what is it that you're "going through"? If you open your mouth with what's on your mind you hand your head over on a platter. Let's face it, most of us would have something in mind if that were said, and it wouldn't be something good. That's just human nature.

The speaker implies there's something wrong with us, and few among us couldn't come up with a name for that amorphous something. It might be The Divorce, or being fat, or being on anti-depressants, or being gay, or having cancer, or being pregnant. [The general theory of "baiting" and this particular sequence are outlined in "The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense," by Suzette Haden Elgin]

The person may or may not be driving at something in particular, but the point is that you ignore the dig, and get to the facts of the matter -- something you can deal with in a rational manner.

If you can become rational and remain there, you can ask questions that direct the conversation toward something specific, i.e., a late report, a poor presentation, or something concrete and behavioral. If you are at fault, you can address that. If the boss is out-of-line, you can, with tact, pursue this further.

Conversations that feel like sparring matches are just that, and if you don't get it, you're going to mark yourself as a future ready-target. You can count on the fact that more will follow.

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