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Nurturing Fathers
Part 2
by Mark Brandenburg, MA, CPCC

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Nurturing fathers have learned to allow and accept all of these feelings. This doesn't mean that you're encouraging your kids to whine or cry. It's entirely appropriate for you to kindly ask your child if they can talk in a different voice when they're whining. This is quite different from leaving whenever they whine or harshly asking them to stop.

The difference is in how your child perceives your acceptance of them while they're struggling, and this perception is often quite accurate.

So how do you learn to be more nurturing and to be more accepting of your "entire" child?

Here are some ideas:

• Figure out the pattern that now exists in which you're falling short as a nurturing father. What are your triggers? How do you react? Having enhanced awareness is always a good place to start.

• When your kids are struggling, think in terms of what your child needs. Notice how easily you can become critical of your child. Consider a hug or positive attention.

• Get to know the intimate details of your child's life: who their friends are, what they do in recess at school, their favorite toys, etc. The more you know about them, the more likely they'll be to share feelings with you.

• Find ways to nurture yourself. If you don't know how, start to experiment. What is it that relaxes you and has you feeling rejuvenated? Reading a book, time with friends, or getting a massage might work. If you don't know how to nurture yourself, it can be difficult to know how to nurture someone else.

• Make a concrete plan for yourself. If you normally avoid your daughter when she's whiny or crying, look for opportunities to jump in and "be there" with her during those times when she's not at her best. Remember it's crucial that she knows you accept her, in both good times and bad.

• Don't be surprised at the depth of the feelings that are produced when you start to nurture. It can produce shame, anger, and sadness in fathers who haven't had much nurturing themselves. Consistent attention to this will improve your skills and possibly have your children wondering what happened to dad!

Fathers who continue to avoid their children when they're not "behaving well" are missing out on a chance to experience real closeness with their kids.

This is a learning opportunity that's simply disguised as a pain in the rear.

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Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, coaches parents by phone to balance their life and improve their family relationships.

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