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by Mark Brandenburg, MA, CPCCPage: 1 2
There were probably good reasons why men were the ones who were out hunting big game for dinner while their wives stayed at home many centuries ago.
One reason is that men probably threw spears with a little better velocity. Another is that women seem a bit more comfortable in the midst of the emotional turmoil that constitutes family life.
Things would be easier for fathers if they could just leave or push a button when things got emotionally messy. The truth is that most men don't want to deal with a lot of maintenance when it comes to their families.
If the family's been doing well in the past they feel it should continue to do well. They enjoy being with their families when things are going smoothly, but they struggle when there's emotional turmoil.
And when there's emotional turmoil, men have a tendency to "leave" emotionally.
While staying away from the emotional episodes in the family would make it easier on fathers, it also tends to keep your kids from really feeling accepted by you. The message you give to your child is clear: I accept you but only if you act or behave in a certain way. If you don't behave in a way that I approve of, I don't accept you. (Remember that this is the interpretation made by a child.)
Fathers have all sorts of escapes that they can use when they're uncomfortable with life at home, including excessive working, TV watching, golfing, or just puttering around the house. While these activities can give fathers temporary relief, they don't do anything about the major issue -- their own ability to handle the difficult times with their children.
How you deal with these situations, and whether you become more nurturing in general as a father, are issues that will determine whether you have close relationships with your children.
Since a high percentage of fathers say their own fathers were emotionally absent for them when they grew up, this is a difficult issue for many. When you haven't been nurtured by your father, it's more difficult to be nurturing to your children.
Many fathers simply haven't learned the skills.
While it's easy for fathers to show their love for their kids when they're acting "good," problems can occur if they don't show them they care when their behavior is below par. This is often under the mistaken assumption that if they nurture their children or show they care while their kids are struggling or crying, they'll encourage more of this behavior in the future.
The problems can happen when your kids respond by suppressing their "bad" feelings and lose an important part of themselves. Emotionally well-rounded kids have access to all of their feelings, not just the "good" ones.Page: 1 2
Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, coaches parents by phone to balance their life and improve their family relationships.
He is an Instructor for the Academy for Coaching Parents, and author of "Secrets of Emotionally Intelligent Fathers" Ecourse.
Life affords no higher pleasure than that of surmounting difficulties, passing from one step of success to another, forming new wishes and seeing them gratified.
~ Samuel Johnson ~
Born September 18, 1709
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