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Having the RIGHT Effect on Other People
Part 3
by Susan Dunn

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Good EQ means having a clue about the feelings of the other person, and knowing the effect that you have them; and, I would add, etiquette and common decency demand that the more the person MUST listen to you, the more considerate you should be in the delivery and content of what you're saying.

Never come on any stronger than you have to. In other words, don't send a cannon when a fly swatter would do. And don't annoy and bore others.

There are two types of people who do this -- those who don't care, and those who don't know they're doing it. EQ means knowing the effect you have on others. This involves watching the nonverbals that go on in an encounter. Noticing if the person you're talking to becomes uneasy (shifting position, losing eye contact, yawning), becomes bored (eyes rolling back in the head, fidgeting, yawning), angry (tense body posture, arms folded), or digusted (lip curled, eyes squinting and/or averted).

Notice that almost any nonverbal communicator can mean several different things, and sometimes can mean opposite things. For instance, a person who becomes agitated when being "questioned," can do so either because they're lying OR because they're a hyper-honest person who's afraid. Any given 'signal' depends upon the grouping and the context.

If you need to know more about nonverbal communication, read by new ebook, "Nonverbal Communication - What You Say Isn't What Says It All" or sign up for some coaching. And please, don't get in someone else's face and BARK!

If there is a little animal inside us (and there is), it responds the way all animals do - to tone of voice. Check out this site ( Dog Training Basics ) and listen to the recordings of what 'works' for praise and for command. Women, they say, have trouble giving the "command" tone, and men have trouble giving the "good dog" tone.

However, getting in someone's face and barking is not gender-specific. Both the intimidating growl and the finger-shaking school m'arm approach are to be avoided if you want others to listen to you, or, more importantly, want them to WANT to listen to you. We all have amazing powers for "tuning out." If you want people to listen to what you're going to say, make sure they're tuning IN, not OUT.

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Susan Dunn, MA, Clinical Psychology, The EQ CoachT, Susan Dunn, MA, cEQc, The EQ Coach™, Susan Dunn. Bringing the power of Emotional Intelligence to YOUR life through coaching, eBooks, and distance learning. Midlife, retirement and transition coaching, career and relationships. Email for free EQ ezine. Want to be a certified EQ Coach? Email for information on this fast, affordable, comprehensive, no-residency program. Products available for licensing to build your practice. Visit the best ebook library on the Internet - EBook Library.

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The Circle of Life -- The Zodiac Signs and the New Moon's Journey
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Rebecca Brents

Astrology is for Believers.

With Real Astrology as your compass, you can recognize what's right for you, work with your natural gifts and rhythms, understand the dynamics of your relationships, and take your place more easily in Life's natural flow.

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Lilacs for the Garden
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