Sure Ways to Lose Your Common Sense
Part 2
by Susan Dunn
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5. Ignore physiological symptoms and signals.
Just because you've had chronic diarrhea since you started that job doesn't mean it has anything to do with that job. (Stay in your left brain, please!! There's no "proof".) If it meant your job was making you sick, well, that would mean you're a wuss, so avoid connecting up with your feelings. Remain strong! Appearances count, you know.
I'm thinking of my client who was literally paralyzed in his life. With a failed marriage and a failing business, he was ruminating about the people and the systems that had caused this. Not surprisingly, his arthritis was getting worse every day. When I suggested there might be a connection - that if he would move, he would move, he replied that he had arthritis because he had inherited it from his father.
This is true, of course, but as Jung said, our discontent-symptoms manifest through our weak points. At any rate, he was "right" and wouldn't be argued with. Despite the fact that it's known in the medical field, which was the expert source he relied on, that if you have arthiritis, you must keep moving. This applies to the life of the spirit as well.
6. Apply Prozac liberally.
Why experience those negative emotions that are so disturbing? Medicate them! Options include, but are not limited to: prescription drugs, illegal drugs, nutriceuticals, alcohol, a cult, and obsessive exercising, gambling, sex, or shopping.
7. Quit thinking for yourself.
Advice is plentiful; just ask someone else what to do. Why struggle? Pay them for their opinion if necessary, but avoid the hard work and introspection of developing your own wisdom. For extra credit, keep "thinking" and "feeling" totally separate. Compartmentalize everything you can. Bonus points: If something goes wrong, you can blame someone else!
8. Take no risks.
If you take a risk you might fall flat on your face. It's much safer to maintain the status quo. Just remember Number 5.
9. Stick with what you know.
Stay where you are. Make sure everyone you interact with feels and thinks the same way you do about things. You've already made up your mind, so why confuse yourself with new data, or, worse, stirring feelings? Don't rock the boat.
10. Starve your brain.
Avoid new playmates and new toys. Why learn something outside your field when you're 40 ... 50 .. 60. Accept that you can't teach old dogs new tricks and that you're an old dog. Ignore the people around you such as my midlife clients (55 and above) who are getting their navigation license, learning to ride motorcycles and get savvy on the internet, mastering new languages, traveling extensively, changing career fields and forming the new brain connections we can acquire throughout our lifetimes that contribute to wellness and resilience.
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