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	Using Your Emotional Intelligence in Difficult Conversations Part 1 by Susan Dunn Momentum Coaching
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Using Your Emotional Intelligence in Difficult Conversations
Part 1
by Susan Dunn

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There you are with your boss, let's say, and you find yourself to be under attack. Do you use your EQ and announce that you feel attacked, or intimated, afraid or belittled?

Let's divide that question into two parts. Do you use your EQ? Definitely. Do you announce how you're feeling? No. Not necessarily. EQ is about emotions, but it's also about rational thinking.

The crux of emotional intelligence is understanding your emotions and then using the information they give you. You need to hold on to that first part and be able to wait. There will be times when you want to reveal what you're feeling (verbally or nonverbally) and times when you do not.

Whatever you decide to do, it must be intentional. That is, if you want to escalate, do so consciously. If you want to de-intensify, do so consciously. If you need to buy time to think, you must be able to throw something out that resembles participation and interest, but means nothing, the sole purpose of which is to give you time to think carefully so as not to self-sabotage.

A gut-level reaction of discomfort on your part will signal you that things are not going well, and this is what you need to pay attention to.

It's important not to confuse yourself by judging your emotional response. Being sensitive and reacting strongly may be temperamental, but they're on a spectrum we all have, and if you get strong signals, they should also be clear, which is fine, and maybe even beneficial.

One reason people are "clueless," is because they aren't able to read and interpret their own emotional reactions or those of others. In the last analysis, it's what you DO about emotional information that matters.

When you don't have enough information, and you sense the person isn't leveling with you, or has some hidden agenda, or is couching insults in loaded innuendos, stop and think. It's imprudent to reveal how you're feeling, because, for instance, if you're dealing with what might as well be termed a "bully," they are going for the fear reaction, and you don't want to reinforce that.

In any adversarial position, revealing your feelings tips your hand, and the opponent (which is what this person has revealed himself or herself to be) then has more information that you do. They are often "groping," and you want to leave them with empty hands, figuratively speaking.

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Racing with the Moon
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Rebecca Brents

Astrology is for Believers.

With an open mind and a knowledge of Astrology you can watch your life unfold in ways that make sense.

You can understand the demands of change and "what's really going on" in a crisis.

Whether in a gentle push in the right direction or in a "hard knock upside the head," you can read the message behind what life is asking of you.

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