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Affirmations - Do They Really Work?

Two years ago you couldn't get me to do affirmations to save my soul. The irony is; now I do them all the time to save my soul! And guess what? They do work and, when done purposefully - with heart and consistency, they do wonders.

When I was first introduced to the concept of affirmations I found I couldn't get past having to say something that I knew in my heart wasn't true, much less having to repeat it. I felt like I was lying. To me affirmations ranked right up there with platitudes. "Don't worry, be happy." Right. I'll get right on it.

Affirmations - Do They Really Work?

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Seven Tips For Negotiating Your Next Raise

Before you enter a negotiation, find out if there are restrictions on what you can get. For instance, if a job is advertised at a certain title and salary, some companies will not negotiate beyond what is formally posted. If your company has a limit on raises, you can't get more unless your boss jumps through a lot of hoops.

Seven Tips For Negotiating Your Next Raise

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What's On Your Personal Priority List?

What are the three top priorities in your life? The absolute three most important things that you consider the essential business of your life? Ok ... what are the TEN top priorities in your life? Which question do you have the most trouble with? Coming up with ten ... or narrowing things down to only three? Both lists are important, because of course the top three -- will certainly be included on your top ten. But from time to time the top three will change. In fact, from time to time BOTH lists will change. Items get dropped. Items get added. Opportunities -- or crises -- arise ... and things in your world shift to accommodate these.

Dreams change their focus. Goals are achieved -- or abandoned, and become "former goals." Relationships strengthen ... and dissolve. Births and deaths occur. Life is a kaleidoscope -- always intricate and multi-faceted, always in motion, some moments breathtakingly lovely ... others not so much. Yet through it all a set of underlying values guides us ... and helps us make choices. Small choices ... huge decisions. Routine maintenance ... and life-altering alternatives.

What's On Your Personal Priority List?

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Seriously, What Are You Waiting For?

During the late 1800's, they had almost identical ideas for this AMAZING new transmitting device called "The Telephone." You can probably guess who ONE of those inventors was. Alexander Graham Bell, of course. But here's a name that you might have heard before: Elisha Gray. See, he actually recorded his schematics for the telephone about six weeks before Bell did. SO, YOU GOTTA WONDER: "Why is it that nobody remembers that guy?"

Seriously, What Are You Waiting For?

Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries, Building Self-Confidence, Taking Action, Self-Improvement for Virgo, Coping with Your Inner Critic, Real Life Stories, Spiritual Lessons from Real Life

Action vs. Apathy
Feeling Powerless? Get Moving!

How many times have you felt truly defeated by the circumstances in your life? You know, the "I don't know why I bother to keep trying, I'm going back to bed and staying there" feeling. It happens to everyone -- housewives, corporate executives, rock stars, actors, world leaders. Each and every one of us has had a day when we felt that we just weren't able to cope with our daily lives.

Action vs. Apathy
Feeling Powerless? Get Moving!

Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries, Setting Goals, Self-Assertion, Showing Initiative, Taking Action, Getting What You Want

Reasons To Say "NO"

This month I said, "NO, I'm not going to write a feature article this month, I want to work on my book instead." As soon as I said that, I realized that there might be some learning (AND an article!) in that decision. Here are the top 10 reasons to say "NO," in service of your creativity and self-care.

Reasons To Say "NO"

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You Get to Want What You Want

"What's terrible is to pretend that the second-rate is first-rate. To pretend that you don't need love when you do; or you like your work when you know quite well you're capable of better."
~ Doris Lessing ~

When you tap into your inner voice and identify your vision, you bring to life your deepest longing. Your vision manifests the essence of you based on your truth, values, creativity, and authenticity. Putting yourself out into the world in this way can feel risky; the thought of that risk can easily block your from seeing your vision.

You Get to Want What You Want

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Sign Your Own Permission Slip

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sail. Explore. Dream. Discover."

~ Mark Twain ~

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Martin Seligman Growing up, permission slips were a big part of school life -- essential to participating in special projects, field trips, or class trips out of state. For me to take part in any adventure outside of the classroom, my mother or father had to sign the slip. Now, as an adult, I can sign my own permission slip. In fact, I don't even need one! Yet I realize how often I don't give myself permission to be who I want to be or do what I want to do.

How many times have you decided that you wanted something, and then denied yourself permission to have it or even ask for it?

In my experience, here are the top ten beliefs that cause people to deny themselves permission to want what they want:

Sign Your Own Permission Slip

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What To Do If Your Boss Asks You
To Do Something Unethical or Illegal

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It happened to me, has it happened to you? Here are some steps you can take.

1. Think beforehand about what you would do if this happened so you can think rationally when and if it should occur.

Emotions will come into play when and if it does that may confuse the issue for you. Intimidation, fear of losing your job, confusion about just what is ethical and what isn't, fear of authority, anger if you refuse to do it, trying to rationalize to justify your boss as a good person, wishing to avoid conflict.

What To Do If Your Boss Asks You
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Who's In Charge Here?

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M. J. Ryan Do you sometimes feel that your life is totally out of your control? That you aren't in charge of anything that happens to you? I certainly understand how you could have that reaction to life. I feel that way part of every day!

Yes, on the most basic level, our personality is not running the show. The soul calls the shots behind the scenes. Yet, allowing the soul to guide it, the personality can feel-and be-in control.

When a Hollywood movie is being made, the most important question to be decided is: "Who is going to have 'creative control' of the final cut?" Your life is a movie. Your movie. You have the final say over the final version-day by day as you choose what to believe, speak and do.

Who's In Charge Here?

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Protect Your Self-Care

So, you've set your self-care goals and you're all set. You've even considered the ways you'll sabotage yourself - but wait! What about those well-meaning friends and relatives who probably don't mean any harm but they may DO you harm if they steer you away from the self-care goals you've set for yourself. So how do your put yourself first and get selfish when others are tempting you to stray?

Protect Your Self-Care

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Getting Your Power Back

During many years of observing others and myself searching for fulfillment, I've noticed an essential ingredient is often missing. I call this ingredient sovereignty, self-sufficiency or total independence from outside sources. Without this quality in its authentic form, no one I know has been able to achieve the happiness, health and peace they are seeking.

Throughout the years of assisting others and myself to feel truly joyous and free, I've watched people try to ignore, deny, invalidate or rationalize away the importance of sovereignty. I've witnessed friends and clients attempt to fake it, substitute for it, and try to steal and borrow it from others. All these efforts have been in vain. Their time, energy and intention would have been put to better use by focusing on allowing this quality to become a solid, personal reality.

Getting Your Power Back

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Boosting Self-Confidence

When you put your focus on the daily improvement of your own skills and abilities you can and will grow very quickly. And your confidence will surge. Confidence without competence is a dangerous combination. Make it easy for yourself and only engage in self comparison when you are assessing your progress. By doing this you will make it easier to keep at it when the going gets tough and your competence will grow day by day.

Boosting Self-Confidence

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Personal Power

All of us would love to have personal power -- the power to manifest our dreams, the power to remain calm and loving in the face of fear, the power to stay centered in ourselves in the face of attack. Our society often confuses personal power - "power within" -with "power over," which is about controlling others. There is a vast difference between personal power and control.

Personal Power

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Don't Take It Personally

Do you sometimes feel like there is a conspiracy and the whole world is picking on you? Your friends, family, colleagues, even strangers? You know they are really talking about you even though they are making general statements. Who do they think they're kidding? Strangers even seem to be going out of their way to make your day difficult. You've been bumped with shopping carts AND cut off on the road by inconsiderate people. Sound a little familiar?

Here is the question -- is everyone REALLY out to get you, or is it your own baggage that makes you perceive that everyone has an agenda with your name on it?

Don't Take It Personally

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Fear Is Nothing To Be Afraid Of

What do you do when fear shows up? Do you hide under the covers of life, shivering as you anxiously wait for the moment to pass or do you stand up with a confident smile and embrace it? Your answer to this simple question will have a considerable impact on the level of freedom, excitement and empowerment you experience on a daily basis. Whatever your response, the thing to remember is that your fears are nothing to be afraid of!

Fear Is Nothing To Be Afraid Of

Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries, Taking Risks, Self-Assertion, Showing Initiative, Qualities of Successful People, Overcoming Shyness, Facing Fear, Self-Improvement for Cancer, Working with Emotions, Coping with Your Inner Critic

Why We Hate to Promote Ourselves

Self=promotion scares people. Getting known by the public scares them. Even thinking about it makes them feel small and inadequate. And yet they know that they must if they want to reach the people they're meant to. So they feel both guilty and annoyed with themselves at the same time.

Why We Hate to Promote Ourselves

Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries, Taking Risks, Self-Assertion, Showing Initiative, Qualities of Successful People, Overcoming Shyness, Coping with Your Inner Critic

What Is a Boundary?

Setting a boundary is not easy. A boundary is not about telling another person what to do. It is about telling another person what YOU will do in the face of the other's continued unkind or undesirable behavior. While it is hard for most people to accept, we cannot control another's behavior. What we can control is our own response in the face of others' behavior. A boundary is about telling your truth and taking action on it.

What Is a Boundary?

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If You Compare, Beware

When you compare yourself to people who have more than you, your inner brat gets into gear. Just like little Johnny and the chocolate cake described above, your inner brat dwells on what's missing, which makes you feel victimized. You'll never be satisfied, no matter how much you have, as long as someone else has more.

If You Compare, Beware

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A tremendous number of people in America work very hard at something that bores them. Even a rich man thinks he has to go down to the office everyday. Not because he likes it but because he can't think of anything else to do.
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