Self-Control

Holiday Help For Emotional Eaters
Weight is just that, weight. It is an inadvertent way to keep you on the ground. You are grounded when you have clarity. You are in control, and your creative mind is working to its full potential. With grounding comes enhanced intuition, you may be surprised just what flows forth when you are secure in your own self-being. Grounding offers complete confidence in your abilities and who you are. It gives you the ability to STAY motivated.
The best way I describe not being grounded, in relation to food, are my bouts with binge eating and bulimia. I never focused on what I was eating. It was more about what I would eat next. One thing after another was consumed before I had time to even think about what I was swallowing. During those times, there never was an "Earth to Catherine" moment.
Holiday Help For Emotional Eaters
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Help Your Kid Survive Mean Girls Or Guys
At some point in your school career, chances are you've had at least one run-in with a kid who seemed determined to make your life miserable. If your son or daughter is currently dealing with one (or more) of these kids here are some positive messages you can offer.
These aren't magic bullets by any means. But if you a) empathize with what your child is going through, b) make sure (s)he knows no one deserves bad treatment from anyone, and c) become your child's #1 advocate, then you will help the situation.
Help Your Kid Survive Mean Girls Or Guys
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Mindful Driving
Is drive-time a hassle for you? Are you usually in a hurry, hustled along by the fear (or certain knowledge) that you're going to be late to wherever you're going ... and once again, a very public and essential-feeling part of your life is out of control. Surprising, isn't it how something so small, so simple, can leave you tied up in knots and wrung-out emotionally before you even start your day, get to work, or find a parking place to keep the appointment that is the great big deal in your world for whatever reason.
Mindful Driving
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A Zen Approach to Healthy Eating
Recommended Book from Amazon

The 150 Healthiest Foods on Earth: The Surprising, Unbiased Truth About What You Should Eat and Why
By
Jonny Bowden
Especially around the first of every year, people talk about "eating healthier." It often comes tied to talk about losing weight, working out, getting fit ... the kinds of things that go on New Year's Resolution lists every year -- and last a few weeks before being dumped again in favor of one's old habits -- which presumably were unhealthy and needed to change.
But old habits die hard ... and usually the desire to change isn't nearly as strong and stubborn as the routines and preferences it's up against.
The fact is, if you want something badly enough, you'll do it. And if you're reading this essay, somewhere, somehow, something in side you wants a healthier diet. You'd just like it to be easy -- so you stand a fighting chance at making it happen without the pain, misery, sense of deprivation and inconvenience which teams up with the power of your old habits and forms an unbeatable alliance.
A Zen Approach to Healthy Eating
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Start Taking Control of Your Life
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You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder
By
Kate Kelly, Peggy Ramundo
At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.
Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:
Start Taking Control of Your Life
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Don't Drive Yourself Crazy
My husband came home on this Friday evening after several hours of running errands and announced, "The crazies are out again today. I was delayed by three different accidents and twice someone nearly got me."
It's true, sadly. The last several years, I've noticed a very different atmosphere out on the road. I don't enjoy driving like I used to. It's no longer a chance for time to myself while listening to the radio -- something I rarely do otherwise. Nor is driving just a way to get the daily chores and commitments done.
Don't Drive Yourself Crazy
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Getting Your Power Back
During many years of observing others and myself searching for fulfillment, I've noticed an essential ingredient is often missing. I call this ingredient sovereignty, self-sufficiency or total independence from outside sources. Without this quality in its authentic form, no one I know has been able to achieve the happiness, health and peace they are seeking.
Throughout the years of assisting others and myself to feel truly joyous and free, I've watched people try to ignore, deny, invalidate or rationalize away the importance of sovereignty. I've witnessed friends and clients attempt to fake it, substitute for it, and try to steal and borrow it from others. All these efforts have been in vain. Their time, energy and intention would have been put to better use by focusing on allowing this quality to become a solid, personal reality.
Getting Your Power Back
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Ways to Motivate Yourself
When You Just Don't Feel Like It
Achieving the really big goals and dreams always involves breaking it down into do-able little steps. Assuming that you've picked a goal or dream that you really love working at, then most of the steps are a delight to take. No matter how much you love your dream and no matter how much you love your work, there are going to be tasks along the way that you really don't want to do. Those pieces of work that we hate doing can be the very ones that sabotage our success. How do you stay motivated during those parts of the journey?
Ways to Motivate Yourself
When You Just Don't Feel Like It
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Dealing with Anger
Anger ... how we struggle with this primitive, upsetting emotion. Denied to women, it was at the same time the "all purpose" emotion for a generation of men -- the only legitimate way they could express any emotion, since tenderness, grief, shame and sympathy were women's territory.
Dealing with Anger
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Fair Fighting
Do you ever worry that if you argue too much with your spouse you'll end up getting a divorce? Some people believe that when two people are happy in their relationship, they should never argue. However, in real life, disagreement is inevitable at some point in any relationship. Excessive fighting can certainly take a toll on you and your relationships. Heated arguments with your partner in which there is a great deal of blame, criticism, or withdrawal are bad for your health.
Fair Fighting
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Managing Conflict, Emotional Tension and Anger
To be a safe and predictable person for those around you at work and at home, it is essential that you are able to maintain your composure when you feel like your 'buttons' are being pushed. This strength will help you to achieve your goals in business as well as your goals for your personal relationships.
Managing Conflict, Emotional Tension and Anger

Getting Past the Arguments
One of the hardest things to handle in a relationship is conflict. While a good and fair fight can clear the air and help you to feel closer to your lover, many fights are just hurtful and destructive. Fights that never go anywhere, that are repeated year after year, or that leave you feeling awful about yourself are not going to help your relationship. Those are the kinds of fights we need to take another look at, and find out what is going on underneath. This is true for any conflict that doesn't feel right, not just those you have with your lover.
Getting Past the Arguments
Resolving Conflict In Your Relationship

Great Ways To Stay Motivated At Work
Staying motivated at work is easier than you think when you know what to do. Motivation really is a question of strategy. When you know your personal motivation blueprint there is nothing you cannot do. It is easy to get caught up with non-urgent matters that you can either ignore completely or do at a later date. All that clutter leaves you confused about what to do so you end up procrastinating. It is very motivating to have a highly specific game plan that challenges you without leaving you overwhelmed.
Great Ways To Stay Motivated At Work

Are You Able To Say Both 'Yes!' And 'No!'?
When it is all said and done, when we delve deeply into our emotions, we almost always find that our strongest and most habitual response is covering up other feelings that we are not fully aware of. We feel hurt, disrespected, abandoned, or sad, and we cover over these feelings and lose touch with them, by expressing anger or resentment instead. When we find ways to tap into our deeper emotions we invariably find that we have been neglecting some form of pain or discomfort. When we neglect or simply don't notice our deeper emotional reactions, we lose the ability to express our full range of emotions. In the process we find that by consistently expressing only one segment of our entire emotional range, we limit our ability to be happy and feel at ease within ourselves and with those that we interact with.
Are You Able To Say Both 'Yes!' And 'No!'?

Eight Simple Anger Management Tips
People are beginning to wake up to the dangers of anger and the need for anger management programs and strategies. Many people find anger easy to control. Yes, they do get angry. Everybody does. But some people find anger easier to manage than others. More people need to develop anger management skills.
For those who have a tough time controlling their anger, an anger management plan might help. Think of this as your emotional control class, and try these self-help anger management tips:
Eight Simple Anger Management Tips

Conflict ... A New Perspective
I was recently asked to address the issue of conflict resolution at the hospital of one of our clients. In today's fast-paced and stressed-out society, conflict resolution is a critical issue. People don't always have the time or the tools to handle conflict.
The word 'conflict' connotes something bad. People think of conflict and they think of two people in a heated argument. But as the workplace shapes itself to recognize and be more accepting of diversity and differing opinions and as companies write their diversity policies, why not change the way we view conflict and embrace it as something to be valued instead of dispelled?
Conflict ... A New Perspective

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