Being Honest

When It's Multicultural, and You Haven't a Clue
It happened again. I was asked to do a presentation for a business and the topic was to be "Memes and Emotional Intelligence in the Work Place."
Now I've been around a while -- well, let's say I'm a weathered veteran of the world-at-large -- and I know my field, Emotional Intelligence. I'm sure I "know" what this means, though I don't have a clue. I immediately agreed to do it, and I didn't ask.
As the time approached, I resisted looking up the word "meme". I realized I had right in front of me the perfect living example of multiculturalism, and I like to illustrate Emotional Intelligence situations in real time, as we all learn more.
When It's Multicultural, and You Haven't a Clue
Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries,
Being Honest,
Self-Improvement for Gemini,
Better Communication,
Using Your Mind Effectively,
Self-Improvement for Virgo,
Issues on the Job,
Self-Improvement for Sagittarius,
Understanding Foreign Ideas and Foreign Cultures,
The Reading Room,
Articles by Susan Dunn,
Words of Wisdom,
EQ -- Emotional Intelligence

The Advantages of Living Out Loud
Every time someone asks us a question, we have a choice to make, "How much truth shall I express?" "How much of my True Self should I reveal?"
Among our choices are the "convenient" truth, the "diplomatic" truth, the "socially accepted" truth, or the "absolute" truth--that is, "the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so help me God!" Do any of us even know the absolute truth about any situation in our lives? And can we ourselves handle the whole truth all at once about any subject? Let alone share that depth with others?
The Advantages of Living Out Loud
Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries,
Being Authentic,
Being Honest,
Self-Improvement for Taurus,
Deciding What's Important,
Developing Character Virtues,
Self-Improvement for Sagittarius,
Ethics and Personal Beliefs,
New Age Blogs,
The Words of Wisdom Blog,
Mysticism,
Conscious Living,
Real Life Stories,
Considering Life's Bigger Questions,
Words of Wisdom,
Telling Your Own Truth

Reasons To Say "NO"
This month I said, "NO, I'm not going to write a feature article this month, I want to work on my book instead." As soon as I said that, I realized that there might be some learning (AND an article!) in that decision. Here are the top 10 reasons to say "NO," in service of your creativity and self-care.
Reasons To Say "NO"
Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries,
Self-Assertion,
Showing Initiative,
Being Independent,
Managing Conflict,
Being Honest,
Making Decisions,
Getting What You Want,
Self-Improvement for Libra,
Setting Boundaries,
Self-Improvement for Pisces,
Self-Care,
Words of Wisdom,
Advice for Living

You Get to Want What You Want
"What's terrible is to pretend that the second-rate is first-rate. To pretend that you don't need love when you do; or you like your work when you know quite well you're capable of better."
~ Doris Lessing ~
When you tap into your inner voice and identify your vision, you bring to life your deepest longing. Your vision manifests the essence of you based on your truth, values, creativity, and authenticity. Putting yourself out into the world in this way can feel risky; the thought of that risk can easily block your from seeing your vision.
You Get to Want What You Want
Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries,
Setting Goals,
Self-Assertion,
Being Honest,
Getting What You Want,
Self-Improvement for Virgo,
Doing Work You Love

What To Do If Your Boss Asks You
To Do Something Unethical or Illegal
Recommended Book from Amazon

Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You
By
Patricia Evans
You're the new secretary and your boss asks you to become a Notary Public. He then walks back into his office and you can hear him on the phone talking about a contract he wants out of, and the fact that he's going to falsify a date and signature -- "No problem, my secretary will do it."
It happened to me, has it happened to you? Here are some steps you can take.
1. Think beforehand about what you would do if this happened so you can think rationally when and if it should occur.
Emotions will come into play when and if it does that may confuse the issue for you. Intimidation, fear of losing your job, confusion about just what is ethical and what isn't, fear of authority, anger if you refuse to do it, trying to rationalize to justify your boss as a good person, wishing to avoid conflict.
What To Do If Your Boss Asks You
To Do Something Unethical or Illegal
Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries,
Self-Assertion,
Being Independent,
Being Honest,
Self-Improvement for Libra,
Coping with Difficult People,
Setting Boundaries,
Alternative Health,
Stress Management,
Articles by Susan Dunn

Who's In Charge Here?
Recommended Book from Amazon

This Year I Will...: How to Finally Change a Habit, Keep a Resolution, or Make a Dream Come True
By
M. J. Ryan
Do you sometimes feel that your life is totally out of your control? That you aren't in charge of anything that happens to you? I certainly understand how you could have that reaction to life. I feel that way part of every day!
Yes, on the most basic level, our personality is not running the show. The soul calls the shots behind the scenes. Yet, allowing the soul to guide it, the personality can feel-and be-in control.
When a Hollywood movie is being made, the most important question to be decided is: "Who is going to have 'creative control' of the final cut?" Your life is a movie. Your movie. You have the final say over the final version-day by day as you choose what to believe, speak and do.
Who's In Charge Here?
Go to: Self-Improvement for Aries,
Self-Assertion,
Being Authentic,
Being Honest,
Mysticism,
Creating Your Own Reality,
Words of Wisdom,
Advice for Living

Red Flags To Indicate That You're Not REALLY Being Honest With Yourself
It's like this. Someone does or says something you don't like. And it's not the first time. Or the second time. Or the third time. You lost count (and you WERE counting) some time ago. Maybe they said something with a smile but you were left scratching your head, wondering if you heard what they said correctly.
You don't say anything in response. Why not? Maybe they meant well. You don't want to ruffle any feathers. But who are you hurting by not voicing your truth? What are the signals within YOU that could help YOU see that you're the one who could use a dose of honesty, courage, and self-expression, especially where feelings are concerned?
Red Flags To Indicate That You're Not REALLY Being Honest With Yourself

Are You Able To Say Both 'Yes!' And 'No!'?
When it is all said and done, when we delve deeply into our emotions, we almost always find that our strongest and most habitual response is covering up other feelings that we are not fully aware of. We feel hurt, disrespected, abandoned, or sad, and we cover over these feelings and lose touch with them, by expressing anger or resentment instead. When we find ways to tap into our deeper emotions we invariably find that we have been neglecting some form of pain or discomfort. When we neglect or simply don't notice our deeper emotional reactions, we lose the ability to express our full range of emotions. In the process we find that by consistently expressing only one segment of our entire emotional range, we limit our ability to be happy and feel at ease within ourselves and with those that we interact with.
Are You Able To Say Both 'Yes!' And 'No!'?
