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	Pisces Astrology Self Improvement for Pisces Shifts to Better Boundaries by Verena Aibel Renaissance Coach
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Are you sick and tired of having your boundaries tested or ignored? Do you even know what a healthy boundary looks or feels like? Do you know what it takes to set and maintain boundaries that work for you? Maybe today's the day to shift into action and enjoy a richer life as a result!

1. Know that your Higher Power, whatever that means to you, has a great vision for you that includes having healthy, flexible boundaries.

Your Higher Power does not want you to be stepped on, tripped over, squashed, enmeshed with (poor English, sorry!), cut off from, or completely alienated from others. Maybe it's time to give up the martyr routine or the good guy/good girl role and live a full life with good boundaries instead.

Start visualizing a brighter picture where you are truly enjoying boundaries that let in the positive stuff and keep out the negative stuff! Now, doesn't that feel better already?

2. Trust that you will know when your boundaries have been violated.

You know when a boundary has been violated if you instantly feel less than, uncomfortable about something, angry, hurt, confused, shocked, or unnerved by someone else's actions, words or expression.

3. Learn how to communicate clearly, and not with mixed messages.

A mixed message is when the tone of voice or facial expression doesn't match the words that someone just uttered. People with poor boundaries may feel so uncomfortable with conveying unpleasant news that they may smile as they deliver the message, hoping the other party won't react right away so they can escape before the other person gets what they were just told.

This cowardly approach doesn't honor and respect others, thus violating a basic boundary that we all have innately, even if we don't place a high value on it.

4. Know yourself and always stand up for yourself!

The more you know about yourself and what really matters to you, the better you will be able to stand up for your values and beliefs. If someone disrespects you by repeatedly showing up late, tell them that this is inappropriate behavior and will not be tolerated.

5. The sooner you set a boundary, the easier it is to maintain.

When you clearly state that you are not comfortable with someone's behavior because they have violated a boundary, you will get their attention. They may get uncomfortable by being called on an inappropriate behavior, but, you will either gain their respect or they will avoid you and violate someone else's boundaries instead!

6. The more practice you have at setting boundaries, the easier it gets!

By setting a boundary, you will feel powerful. Being your advocate, your own champion, gives you self-esteem. The surge of energy you receive by doing this will help you set another boundary, when necessary, more easily next time!

7. The more often you set a boundary, the less often you will have to do it!

Your new behavior will often create extra shielding or protection against boundary violators and you may notice that you don't have to set boundaries as often any more! In other words, people will already sense how you feel about something and will be less inclined to test your boundaries in the first place. Strange, but true!

8. Self-care behavior increase your ability to set boundaries.

When you routinely treat yourself lovingly, gently, and practice self-care, you will get better at knowing when a boundary has been violated and knowing how to set a boundary without making the other person wrong.

9. Focus on the behavior, not the person.

When a boundary has been violated, address the behavior and don't get into name-calling. Assume that the other person didn't know what they just did and that you are simply stating a fact about how you do business, what matters a lot to you, or how you wish to be treated. Be matter-of-fact about it.

10. Keep an eye on the quality of your boundaries.

Are you being reasonable, undefined, or overbearing about your boundaries? Periodically ask yourself if you would be willing to allow someone else the same types of boundaries that you wish to maintain. If so, go for it! If not, examine why not. You may benefit from working this through with someone whom you admire and respect, like your coach!

This piece was originally written by Verena Aibel, BA/Interpersonal and Organizational Communication (Penn State University), CTM, prolific writer of Top Ten Articles, Top Ten Coach & Consultant, Renaissance Coach, Global Biz Woman, Public Speaker, and Workshop & Teleclass Leader, who can be reached at Verena@optonline.net, or visited at Renaissance Coach.

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Pisces is the astrology sign that deals specifically with Faith, Therapy, Healing, Self-Understanding, Psychological Issues, Self-Sabotage, Cosmic Consciousness, Artistic Inspiration, and Karma. Learn more about Pisces.
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Born July 1, 1804

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